Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Friday, June 28, 2013

Mom's Advice

Ever since I moved here, I talk to my mom on a regular basis. Either I call her or we Whatsapp each other.. and usually she does what moms normally do. Give sage advice and reminders to pray, stay healthy and be safe. My mom is so worried about city life that she always sends emails regarding kidnapping stories or mugging stories or robbery stories that tend to make me even more paranoid than I normally am.

The thing is, I told her, bad things can happen anywhere and anytime. Someone I know refuses to travel because every place in the world is unsafe and full of people shooting each other. You can't stop it if God wills it. But you can always take preventive measures to stay safe. Like equip yourself with pepper spray and always be alert. Don't walk around with your earphones on. Or text when you're walking in the carpark.

But I guess the best thing to do is, just listen to your mom. If she's worried, then do your utmost best to assuage her fears, even if it means buying batons and keeping them in the car or house. I used to have a baseball bat in my room. But since it would harm me more than I could do harm with it, my brother took it back.

So wherever you are, readers... Pray, stay healthy and be safe! ;)

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

The Beauty of Motherhood

Is motherhood really that beautiful?? Is motherhood really what it's cracked up to be?? Is motherhood all pretty flowers and sunshine and perfect children with perfect grades and unicorns that poop rainbows??

From the moment a woman gives birth whether naturally or c-section or heck, even if you've adopted a child, it's all blood, sweat and tears. Literally.

There's nothing beautiful about having a familiar stranger's face up your "hoohoo", with blood spewing forth and telling you "one more push". There's nothing beautiful about being scared to poop a day after giving birth. There's nothing beautiful about the pain of chapped nipples combined with a very hungry baby. There's nothing beautiful about staying in your pjs (truth be told, it's actually nice and comfy) the whole day because you don't seem to have a moment to yourself from the moment you wake up until the time you fall asleep -- all 10 minutes of it. There's nothing beautiful about the price of diapers and formula. Period.

And don't even start about forgetting to pretty yourself up for the husband. For all you know, you're probably still wearing the most unsexy grandma panties of all time because the laundry is piling up and the cooking and the dishes and the dusting and the mopping still needs to be done.

Yet, in the midst of all that craziness, moments of contentedness (is that even a word?) still do exist.

Moments when your baby gives you a heartstopping smile and nestles in closer to your chest. Moments when out of the blue, your daughter comes up, gives you a big fat kiss and says "You're beautiful, mommy. You're the best ever ever." or when your son says "Mommy, your burger is crusty today" but finishes his food because to him, your crusty burger is still his favourite. Moments when your husband gives you a long big hug and helps with bathing the children without you asking because he knows. Moments when, for a split second, the house is all quiet and everyone is happy.

These moments are the moments that makes your heart fill up with joy and pride and no matter what other people say, you know you did good.

Actually, it's moments like these that make you crazy enough to think you can handle more kids. Hahaha.

But yes, despite the madness, craziness, blood, sweat and tears, I do believe that motherhood is all that it's hyped up to be.. and MORE. I admit, it sometimes makes you want to just close your eyes and ears and ignore everything. But it makes me the person I am today.

I used to think that parents make and shape their children. I just realized that my kids make ME. They taught me (and still continue to teach me) to be patient and kind and tough and strict and funny and be less uptight and more importantly, make me appreciate my mom a whole lot more and have a better relationship with her than ever before.

That, my friends, makes motherhood CRAZY BEAUTIFUL.

Author's note: This is just my account of motherhood. I can't speak for the rest of the mothers especially those who have nannies aplenty, time to go to the gym, wear Zannottis and Atwoods and Louboutins on their feet and moms who don't own a single grandma panty. Evidently, I am no Mrs Beckham. But I am ok with it.

In this moment, I am at peace.

*a moment later, i retract my last sentence, baby Z just woke up and the havoc ensues*

Time to sign off.

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Wordless Wednesday: Growing Up Too Fast

My niece, Naeema is 6 months today while my son, little Zaidan Alif, is approaching 4 months exactly on his father's birthday, 23rd March. I can't believe that they're growing up sooooo fast. I can't believe that time has flown so fast, it's unbelievable really. It just feels like yesterday that two heavily pregnant ladies went to the islands for some R and R. Hahaha much to my mom's concern. Anyways, it was good to babysit my little rascal niece today. She's such a good baby and so easy to take care of. :)


There they are. Before you know it, they'll be jumping around and giving their mommies and daddies a hard time.

p/s: I could never grasp this Wordless Wednesday thing. I always have something to say.

Monday, January 7, 2013


I haven't been doing any shopping whatsoever in soooooo long. I mean, I didn't even buy any pregnant clothes at all last year. I just resorted to wearing my dresses, over-sized Ts, my old empire waisted tops and a pair of leggings. That was about it.

So now that I'm no longer preggers, I'm pretty excited about the prospect of going shopping again! But when I went out recently with my mom, all I saw were winter clothes on display! What a bummer! I mean, the clothes are gorgeous but I hardly need any ski coats for women at this point.

But it's not like I've lost much weight yet, pun. I have lost a bit and I'm looking forward to starting my exercise (can't start too early after giving birth) and just eating more healthily. After all, my sister's wedding is on the 1st of March! And I soooo need to look good. NEED, ok? NEED. It's an ego boost for a mommy of 3. Oh just indulge me, will ya?

Monday, December 10, 2012

Post Baby Weight

Being a new mommy again, for the third time around after a gap of 5 years isn't exactly easy. I sort of forgot how it was to take care of a newborn and what comes with it (pain of breastfeeding, long nights, cluster feedings, confinement, etc) but I've adapted really quick and when your mommy instincts kick in, you just switch your mode to SUPER "Supermom". Yeah, DOUBLE the supers!

So this time around, my weight gain wasn't as bad as my 2 previous pregnancies. The most I gained was when I was pregnant with my firstborn -- I gained 22kgs and he came out a whopping 3.91kgs (normal delivery). Never again! After learning my lesson THEN, with Allie, I gained 15kgs and she came out a mere 3.51kgs (Thank God). This time around though, I gained only about 9kgs.

Taken 10 days before my delivery

Thanks to breastfeeding day and night like a milk machine, I have managed to lose all 9kgs already, in the span of 2 weeks. Not bad, you think?

HOWEVER, my pre-baby weight was 15kgs OVER my ideal weight. So basically, I am STILL 15kgs overweight. Pathetic! LOL!

I have my sister's wedding coming up this March and I NEED to look good. Yet, at the same time, I don't even think I have the energy to WANT to look good, you know what I mean? The moment I think of working out, I literally yawn. Seriously, I'm exhausted just thinking about it. I don't think I want it bad enough.

But I can't exercise yet even if I wanted to. Under my mom's rules, I can't do anything to exert myself within the first 45 days. Yup, that's how long my confinement is. BORE. After that, then I can worry myself silly about exercise. Until then, to get back down to my pre-firstborn baby weight, damnn... I have to watch what I eat!

When The Going Gets Tough

As most of you well know, I just had a baby recently and needless to say, I pretty much resemble a "Walker" right now. The Walking Dead fans would know what that means.. but here, let me show those of you who don't know.

Yes, sleep deprivation does that to you. I was up pretty much the whole night and although my baby is sleeping NOW and I could join him in dreamland if I wanted to, I chose to wake up early because unfortunately I have lots of work to do. A mommy's job is never done.

Anyways, with so much things to juggle and more responsibilities to think of and so little time, I am trying to get things done before year's end.. which is approximately only 21 days away! Gosh. UNBELIEVABLE. I can't believe the end is near. Not referring to the "Mayans' end" but you know what I mean.

I was supposed to help my mom create a blog too. Yeah, my mom is internet savvy these days and she wants an outlet to share her thoughts as well. Knowing my mom, she'll have a great following. In fact, she has more twitter followers than I do. LOL! She's been reminding me to do it before the baby came, but it was just impossible.

What with my sister's wedding coming up and my baby, and preparing for school to reopen next year, it's just so hectic. So hectic, that I might have to ask my mom to send my mom a tutorial on how to make a free website. I think it's easier that way. Besides, she has to learn how to deal with websites on her own since I won't be here all the time to help her out with it.

I just don't know how other moms do it, sometimes. My mom used to handle 4 little kids (ranging from 2 to 10 years old) while taking her degree, staying on the dean's list, in a country so far from her family and had no other help besides my dad. It's hard, but if you've got to do it, you just do it. I guess it's just time for the tough to get going! I CAN DO THIS!

The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face

About two weeks ago, I gave birth to my 3rd child, a beautiful baby boy and I can't be happier.. or more tired. LOL! Obviously, having a newborn, lack of sleep is a given.. Nonetheless, I won't give it up for anything.

Not many people knew this time around that I was expecting my third child. In the beginning, I wanted to wait until my first trimester was over to tell people, but in the end, I just decided to keep it to myself. It was like a delicious secret that I didn't want to share.

I just figured as long as I told the people closest to me, that was all that mattered. However, now that my pregnancy is over and done with and my baby boy has safely arrived, I'm more than ecstatic to share my news with everyone.

Zaidan Alif, born on 23rd November, 8.35pm, weighing 3.67kgs. Pic taken at 5hrs old.

There are some people (who are rather close to me), however, who refuse to congratulate me -- for whatever petty reason, but it's okay. I get it. Not everyone has the capacity to feel happy for others. They'd rather be bitter and petty and that's okay. The important thing is that my family is happy and healthy and I have plenty of wonderful people in my life.

Anyways, for this Music Monday, I decided to dedicate a song to my darling little son, The First Time (Ever I Saw Your Face), by Leona Lewis -- originally sung by Roberta Flack. The reason I chose this song was because the song rings true with how I felt the first time I saw him.

The first time I held him, he just looked up to me and smiled -- much to the surprise of everyone around me. The nurses, my husband, the doctor.. I thought it was a fluke shot smile, but when the nurse brought him to me that night for his feeding, he gave me another one of his special smiles and I felt like the luckiest mommy on earth. :)

The first time ever I saw your face
I thought the sun rose in your eyes
And the moon and the stars were the gifts you gave
To the dark and the endless skies, my love
To the dark and the endless skies

And the first time ever I kissed your mouth
I felt the earth move in my hands
Like the trembling heart of a captive bird
That was there at my command, my love
That was there at my command, my love

And the first time ever I lay with you
I felt your heart so close to mine
And I knew our joy would fill the earth
And last till the end of time, my love
And it will last till the end of time, my love

The first time ever I saw your face, your face
Your face, your face

I hope you all enjoy it, have a happy week ahead of you and happy Music Monday! :)

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Wednesday, October 31, 2012

My Girl

I know I'm a little bit behind on Music Monday but what the heck, I'm submitting my entry anyway. I was supposed to post this yesterday but I was too busy and too damn tired to even start the PC.

Anyways, this week, I'm featuring the song "My Girl" by The Temptations.. becauuuuseee.. my beautiful baby girl has turned 5! :) Well, she's not exactly a BABY baby, but still my little baby girl. No matter how old she gets..

It seems like they grow up at the speed of light. One day, I'm in the labor room and the next, she's saying things like "OMG, Mommy! I was freaaaaking out!!"

I cherish every moment I spend with her and I wish she'd just grow up much more slower.. so I can savour these precious moments before they grow up to be teens and get all smart-mouthed (see if they DARE!) and be all angsty and stuff.

Zaira Alishya born 3.51kgs on 29th October 2012 @ Damai Specialist Hospital, KK

Allie's 2nd Birthday

Happy 5th Birthday, baby girl. Love you loads. This one's for you.. :)

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Friday, October 12, 2012

Ramblings of a Cranky Mama Bear

I seriously need to get my laptop fixed. PRONTO! I cannot take anymore of doing my work at Mailboxes. I love it here because it's quiet. It's a store with postal services, packaging services, sells office supplies, name care printing.. you name it. They also have internet services which are affordable. So yeah, it's not like I'm stuck in some dingy cybercafe with people smoking their lungs out playing some MPG shooting game.

However, it's damn cold right now and my fingers are already freezing and feel like they're falling right off. It doesn't help that I'm hungry because the cold makes me even hungrier than ever, which in turn, makes me absolutely cranky. And while I was browsing the H&M site earlier, it didn't help that I saw some really cute fur vests that I wish I had right now. Just to protect me from the cold. Then I'll stuff it into my cupboard where it will never again see the light of it.

Okay. I need to stop rambling. Like now. And get back to work.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

For The Mommies-To-Be!

I know of quite a few of friends or relatives that are expecting right now, that it's scary! After all, you all know the saying that pregnancy is contagious, right! LMAO! Seriously, it is.. and I am steering clear! But not before giving a word or two of advice.

My advice is, don't be like me. I went into my first pregnancy thinking my mom will help me out on my questions and everything. Which she did. However, as ever pregnancy is different, there were things that I experienced and she didn't.. so she couldn't help me out. For example, she never experienced severe leg cramps during her third trimester while I got hit with cramps almost every night!

I never thought to buy a self-help book on pregnancy but really, the book What To Expect When You're Expecting is truly a gem for mothers to be.. You should keep it with you at all times. It does help, really. I went old school and thought I didn't need a book to tell me how to deal with stuff and boy was I wrong.

Every question you have from your 1st trimester till the time your baby comes out will be answered. From your diet, exercise tips, questions on cramps or even questions regarding relief for hemorrhoids! Trust me! Daddies to be, go get this book for the missus!! Go Bem, go! LOL! You won't regret it!

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Word For Today: Exhausted

I am soooooo bloody tired and exhausted right now, I might fall asleep any minute but I have to wait for my darling husband to come home! Again and again, he keeps forgetting to bring his keys and on other days, I might not complain.. after all, it's only 9.14pm.

It's just that today is laundry day and I didn't get to do my laundry the previous laundry day due to the rain. So it's DOUBLE DUTY.. and the lovely part is, we don't own a washing machine. Yeah, I know.

Soooo, once I got started, there was no stopping me. I cleaned every surface except for the ceiling fans (that's Mr Hubby's job) and Syura's room (I thought she was inside, sleeping). Only later I found out she already went out. Plus, I tried to be Wonder Woman and do a 1 hr tae-bo workout! WOOOT!!! Burn baby burn!!

Anyways, it is now 9.18pm and the only reason I am not sleeping yet is because the children are still awake. They usually sleep around 10-10.30pm. So I've got about an hour more to kill. ngantuk

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Cinderella, I am NOT!

I got tagged by Spymama for this one.. It's a great one for all mums or domesticated divas out there! Really fun!


This meme is pretty simple.
Here are the rules:

1.) List down the household chores you hate and why. Do you think you can survive without helpers and nannies?
2.) Copy the image.
3.) Tag as many girlfriends you want, the daddies and hubbies can also join.
4.) Add your blog’s link in the domesticated divas linky love. You can add all your blogs.
5.) Leave a comment at Stripe and Yellow to be added to the masterlist.

DOMESTICATED DIVAS: Living the Healthy Life / Stripe&Yellow / Vanity Kit / Mind Bubbles / Something Purple / Em's Detour / Me,Myself+2 / Kidd Designs / FunFierceFabulous / Ozzy's Mom / Insights from the Grocery Cart / Living A' La Mode / God's Best Gift / MommyAllehs Up-Close And Personal / My Precious Niche / Just Me.. Eds / Eds Mommy Life / Aggie Shoots Aggie Scraps / All Kinds of Me Stuff / The Salad Caper / Winding Creek Circle / InkBabyStudios / Joys in Life / Me and Mine / Little Peanut / Creative in Me/ Pea in a Pod / Sugarmagnolias / Notable Bistro / Around the World / I am Mommy / All About The Memories / Enchanted Play / In Depth / A Housewife's Journal / Life Together Starts / As We Face Forever / My Happy Place /Iam Dzoi / Suburban Sass / To the Moon and Back / Raising Sandy / Walk on Red / All Things Me / Because Life Is Fun / Feels Like Home / Growing up with Bea / My life... my own piece of heaven / Around the World / Hobbies and Such / My life in this Wonderful World /My Online World / / My Virtual Closet / My Views On My So Called Life / The Real Deal The Real Me / Changing Lanes/ Pit Stop/ Around the World / The Fountain Of Happiness / The Joy Of Life Forever / Love Is / Phtographic Memories / My Colorful World / Strawberry Gurl / Quicker8 / Mommy's Little Corner / The Dawn That Shines / Journey to Prosperity / Homelife / Sheng's Simple Thoughts / Coriander Dreams / Gorgeous Traveller / A Traveller's Domain / Lemon Iced Tea / It's My Party / My Wonderful Life / Simple Life, Simply Me / Sassy Finds / All things Yummy / Shangrila Journey / My Charmed Life / Mommyhood and Me / Crissy's Zone / Crissy's Library / Vis Vires /Crissy's Haven / My Daily Thoughts / Abby's Way of Life / Princess Bela / Women Xplore / Our Journey to Life / My Planet Purple / And so I am / Arlene's Random Ramblings / Life's All About / Lourdes' Mia / Faery Dancing / Me, the islands and the world / Pinay heart wanderings and musings / Juls Random Thots / In The Spirit of Dance / Princess Vien / Quicker8 / Anything and Everything in Between / Designs By Vhiel / Vhiel's Corner / Can of Thoughts / A Mother's Stuff / housewifeatwork / Kuting’s Place / My Daily Thoughts / Pinay heart wanderings and musings / Watchamacallit! / Nellypie's Chatterbox/ Purpled Sky / Almanac Queen / Caramel Corn / Sunny Side Up Foodie / Mamakshop / Alamakoioi / JoZe's Crap / My Sweet Escape

~~~END COPY~~~

Personally, for me, the household chores I hate most of all is hand-washing clothes and mopping the floor. I honestly don't mind doing other chores like dishes, washing toilets, ironing.. but I hate hand washing laundry. The kids' clothes need to be handwashed and even though they're pretty tiny, I can't stand doing 'em.

As for mopping, I just simply hate it. Luckily for me, however, hubby is one man who loves to do the mopping. He'll even do the first layer, then second layer, followed by the last "coating"! I think that's psycho! LOL!

So, with that, I will tag, Ratu Syura, Rafiq ('coz he's a domesticated DIVO), Chegu Carol, Osindak and Kadusmama, Marzie, LadyJava, Nick Phillips and Nessa.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Tale of runny noses, pictures and obscenity...

It's 1:36am and the kids are FINALLY asleep! Yay!

Actually they were asleep already, but when one started coughing (Buddy) then the other one started crying (Allie). After some Vicks rubbing (Buddy) and some milk giving (Allie) and some TLC, they are now asleep.

Until when? I'm not sure. At least Allie's teething discomfort has lessened somewhat. OH wait! I take that back!! I'm not gonna jinx it!!

Anyways, just thought of sharing with you guys a pic of Buddy and Allie that was taken today.. by me! hah (Yeah, me and cameras don't bond well!)

Here's Buddy, taking an afternoon nap (which just shows how unwell he is - he never takes an afternoon nap since as long as I can remember!)

Here's Allie playing PS3 with her uncle!
adus I left her with my mom when I went to the toilet, and when I came out she was already with my eldest brother, all happy and cheerful! The game my brother was playing? Grand Theft Auto IV!! Oh no no no no no no no!! takbole

Even so, I still managed to take a picture of her before I brought her awaaaayyy from the explicit-ness of the game.

So that's all we did for today.. Hope your day went much less boring than ours! ihikhik

p/s: Nick, who said you can't get a PS3 for a baby?? Kids nowadays, canggih I tell you! gelakguling

Friday, June 6, 2008

Mommy's tip for diaper rash!

Okay... you might think I'm the biggest tanduk mommy out there for not knowing this earlier.. but I admit, I just found out about it and I'm really impressed!

I did mention that Allie is going through her teething phase right?? Well, together with her teething and her irritability comes the other dreaded thing that I bet mommies out there CANNOT stand... DIAPER RASH!

With Buddy, he seldom, developed all these nappy rash/diaper rash.. and during the one or two times that he did get it, I found that the Sebamed Healing cream worked like a charm!

However, with Allie, everything doesn't seem to work! I was tension thinking what I could do for my poor little baby... but after googling all sorts of remedies, I found one that was pretty amazingly brilliant!

I mixed 2 bags of camomile tea and a couple drops of baby oil (mine contained aloe vera - which I supposed helps alot) into hot boiled water, let it cool and then washed her with it. I did it for every changing and in less than 24 hours, it has lessened more than 50%!

Wow!! I am still amazed!! And boy am I GLAD! menari

I can't remember from which website/blog I found it, but I totally owe you one!! sengihnampakgigi I hope for other mommies who haven't heard of it and was stressing like I was, I hope this tip helps!!

Sunday, June 24, 2007

No more bad hair days..

For most of you who don't know, my 3 year old son has really curly hair. Lately, it has been pretty unruly and my mom has been pestering me to cut his hair. It's really getting on my nerves too. But I had to wait for his Daddy to come back from KL, so that both of us can have a hand in cutting it. And no, sending my son to a barber will just create a havoc that we both will regret. :)

Haha.. Doesn't he just look adorable.. I couldn't stand it, you know, when people come up to me and say, awww.. isn't she cute.. Then ask me again, "He/She ah? " Okay. I'll let all of you single/unmarried people out there on a little clue. Please LOOK at the clothes that the child is wearing. It WILL give you a hint. And the shoes. I dress my son as boyish-ly as possible to deter people from asking me this question.. but I still get it all the time. WHY?? Ok, let's blame it on the hair.. So, mommy does a chop chop chop... and let's look at him now...

So, what do you guys think? Yeah, the photo is sorta blurry and all.. But the hair is better, right?? ;) So, looks like mommy did a good job after all.. (No thanks to daddy!) LOL!

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

My day with fun clay

Yesterday, while going out to buy some stuff for my kid sister's school project, my son suddenly saw this Ferrari model car he wanted so bad. Seeing as how "dry" my purse was, I had to steer him away to the cheapest item I saw. Fun clay or what we familiarly call plastesin. I was telling my son just how much fun we'll have making all sorts of shapes.. dinosaurs and all other cool stuff. Luckily for me, my son was easily dissuaded from the Ferrari car... THIS time. *phew*

So as we got home, he immediately asked me to produce all the said things that I promised him in the store. So i started off trying to make a dinosaur, which ended up looking like a turtle.. Anyone who knows me well, just absolutely knows I have nil talent for these creative things. I can't draw, paint, or decently colour a kids colouring book. Haha.

But soon I got the hang of it.. I soon moved on to snakes, a snail, a pig.. until he suddenly asked for the impossible.. MAKE ME DADDY!! Okayyy.. hold on there. I bet even Neil from "Art Attack" couldn't make daddy either.. Or so I hope. LOL! Anyways, I ended up making a snowman/baby looking figurine... He was happy with it anyway. He simply said, "Mommy make baby for me!!!" Awww.. so sweet.. I was already practically sweating bullets, afraid he'll say.. something like, "No, mommy... I want Daddy!!!!" Haha. Here's the two figurines that I thought was pretty cute.. :)

Piggy and Snowman/Baby figurine...

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